Dangerous Ground?
So at work there's this guy I joke around with...we're friends but that is it..I wouldn't want to go any further. Lately we've been getting alone more and more and we're always sitting around talking to one another now instead of working....A few days ago I kinda noticed how much we have been getting along...but like I said, it's only friendship for me. So today I was going to go to the shop across the street and he said he'd come with me. We then spent break together...we've never gone on break together, just the two of us....Then later on a bunch of us were going shopping during lunch hour because we're only about 10 minutes away from the city centre and we were talking and he kept like putting his arm around me and hugging me and I started to wonder if he knew we were only friends.....
And I'm aware that a lot of things I do could seem like I was flirting...well, mainly because I dounconcsiously flirt with everyone. I cant help it, I'm a naturally flirty person :) So I'm worried that maybe he doesnt notice me acting the same with all the other guys in the office...even the 50 year old managers :)
So I dont know what to do now. I like our friendship but there could never be anything more....so how do I avoid it? I dont want to not be his friend, and I dont want him to get the wrong idea....and I definitelydont want to come out and say 'look dude we're just friends, I dont want anything more' hahaha.
posted by Oreo @ 5:26 PM
10 Comments:
to make an omelette you need to break a few eggs
1. First of all, I'd address the issue, but seeing you wont do that, go to point 22.
2. Stop panicking about it.
3. Keep your distance, while not making it too obvious.
4. Overanalysing the situation can make it into a bigger issue than it may be.
5. Remember, you cant ever be forced to romantically like someone, regardless of how much they like you.
6. You have a perfect excuse as to why you wouldnt want to start something anyway - YOU ARE GOING AWAY.
7. Use that excuse.
i meant, point 2
I'm not going to pretend to know what I'm talking about it when it comes to these kinds of things. I'm horrible with them, and am currently going through something similar. So instead, I'm just going to say GO CANADA GO!!!! Both our men and women's Olympic Hockey teams are going to kick ass!!! WOOOHOOO!!!! I can't wait!!!!
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Omellettes? Eggs? Canada? Hockey?
Either a) these guys are commenting on the wrong blog or b) guys are just weird and like avoiding the subject :)
Hey, I thought I did alright!
you're being such a girl.
overanalyzing situations will not get you anywhere..
anyways. yes, you are leaving.
hahaha
and the omelettes?? wtf?? i'm confused
yeah, that would have to be b) guys are just weird and like avoiding the subject :)
;o)
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If you want to be accepted as one of the guys you have to expect that someone will find that very attractive. Guys like to think that they are the hunters and ought to make the first romantic approach, in case you are offended by their not doing so! So just get on with it. Be his friend, who knows true love can creep up behind you and wack you on the back of the head as well as belting you blatantly between your eyes. Don`t you cuddle your friends, or give them a peck on the cheek? any next step with him would only be with your full agreement, so no worries enjoy his friendship and keep it at that!
Hehe I enjoyed all the comments on this post...
Kate you DID do alright, it was the weird comments from the guy I was talking about! haha. You made 7 very good points :)
Rob I see what you mean...I guess I'll just keep things as friends from my point of view and see what happens...when I got thinking about what you said I realized I dont mind, say, hugging my guy-friends out of work, it's just the fact that it's someone in work that seems weird...but as long as things stay as being friends I dont mind...I just dont want him thinking they can progress :)
Anyway, I'll just wait and see what happens, and run for the hills (or New Zealand!) if he gets any ideas! hahaha. But you guys are right, I COULD be making too much about it so I am gonna forget about it :)
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